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The Conscious Shift: Looking at Negativity, Positively

Author Name: Tracee Dunblazier
Publish Date: June 7, 2016
Website Link: https://www.meetmindful.com/conscious-shift/

Positive negativity? Tracee Dunblazier shares insight from her new book on how a conscious shift in how we consider “negativity” can change everything.


The following is an excerpt from Tracee’s latest book, Master Your Inner World: Embrace Your Power with Joy (The Demon Slayer’s Handbook Series 1)

“Negative thoughts have a positive message.

The slayer’s path is to think and feel—always—but also to cultivate the ability to think and feel with honesty, mastery, and flow. Sometimes, when we don’t like what we think and feel, we naturally stop the flow so we may better and more clearly recognize what we are thinking and feeling.

Does it make you mad that sometimes your thoughts are really negative? Most of us have spent a good part of our lives and energy feeling angry, sad, and ashamed of these thoughts and their role in our lives. Little time is spent on acknowledging their nature, function, and purpose.

Demons are dense in nature and can connect to all of our lower vibrational emotions such as anger, grief, sadness, greed, lust, guilt, disappointment, or apathy, to name a few. Although we consider these emotions to be negative, it is the very nature of that negativity that allows for the presence of their positive message in our physical world. They are potent enough to penetrate the physical world we live in and are the anchors connecting all other creative energy here. Essentially, all of our negative thoughts hold great power for each and every one of us in the true message that they bring.

Negative thoughts are arrows that have a very important function in our world; they are as incredibly transformative to us as a chisel is to stone. They have an equal and opposite value that is positive. Every thought has a negative or positive vantage, and that means every negative thought has a positive meaning. While a demon’s purpose is to create chaos and destruction, chaos in and of itself is not bad; in fact, chaos is a very neces­sary part of the natural cycle of all things and a universal truth.’

—p163

‘For a couple of years, I went through some deep transformations in my relationships; there were quite a few people in my daily physical life who were actually in conflict with me. (Well, more accurately, they were in conflict with themselves.) In objective truth, they weren’t my friends; they were acquaintances or associates with whom I had many things in common. Calling our relationships “friendships” was my subjective perspective. With many of them, it was all about what they needed from me, or my availability to them, or even what I had been to them in the past; but these relationships didn’t really include who I am as an individual and what I needed today.

During this time I was covered in a shroud of bitterness about my relationships. Always frustrated and defeated, my mantra was, I don’t really have any friends…well, just you. You’re my one friend. I used to say this a lot. Every time, it gave me a chuckle; somehow it felt soothing for me to say. The fact was it always seemed I had quite a few friends and certainly had more of a social life than I could handle.

As I became aware of this mantra, I began to question what it reflected. I prayed on it every night: “God, why do I feel this way?” 

As it turned out, for me this was the end of a very long cycle of living a particular energy pattern. Being in the helping business had surrounded me with people who hadn’t yet fully accepted themselves, and I found out I hadn’t really been truly myself in any relationship for quite some time—if ever. I found that I didn’t always respond with my voice; I responded with the helping voice of what they needed…’

—p161

The Slayer’s Path: To Think and Feel

‘Take the emotion of bitterness, for example. Bitterness exists in place of heartfelt communication. When the throat (fifth) chakra is out of balance, the heart doesn’t get enough of the flow it needs for balance. My bitterness about my relationships existed because I had been in a thera­peutic (spiritual) outlook (lens) regarding almost every person that I knew, professionally (as an empath) or personally (being an empath).

Over time I didn’t make the adjustments I needed in myself, or communicate my needs to the people who were most important to me. In fact, I’d not really made any distinction at all. My lens in all my relationships had been from the place of compassion, a spiritual vantage (heart, third-eye, and crown chakras), wherein the truth is we are all equal and have immense value. My truth, for many years, was that my needs were fulfilled just by helping, that helping others helped me. When that dynamic changed, when I realized that helping others didn’t necessarily always help me, I didn’t make the necessary adjustments to solidify the new dynamic.

For men and women to meet freely as mature and integrated people, they each have to live in unison with their inner opposite sex, for woman can only touch the essential being of a man if she has integrated her inner man, and a man will only reach the true being of a woman if he has integrated his inner woman.

—Marie-Lu Lorler, Shamanic Healing within the Medicine Wheel

A slayer must learn to become all things to themselves, rendering them invincible. When we believe that we are not whole without the presence of others, we become vulnerable to the pursuit of those needs that we cannot meet by ourselves. Consciously or unconsciously, we seek to fulfill our needs in the world outside of us. When we do that, we diminish our own sense of power, self-trust, and faith, which are the three most important characteristics of a slayer. As you begin to become all things to yourself, you will be able to love completely and find love in every circumstance.”

—p164

5 Easy Ways to Be Positive About Negativity

I attended a healing group one time with a man I was dating, everyone was taking turns sharing their week when a woman out of turn starts screaming and crying.  I turned to her and asked what was happening and she continued while pointing at another woman across the room. I took a deep breath encouraging her to calm down and asked her if she could wait until it was her turn. She quieted. Just as soon as the next person started, she began this time to cry and hyper ventilate holding her throat. My date turned to her and said, in a solid, firm yet calm voice, “Hey, are you okay? Is this a 911 situation? Because I will call them for you.” She looked at him and became silent and the tears stopped, as if surprised that someone was concerned–– then shared when it was her turn.

I was quite impressed with my date. He didn’t diminish her in any way, he showed concern, but went directly to the core of “Are you safe?” and kept to the parameters of the group which were: everyone gets to speak and deserves to speak uninterrupted.

You see, oftentimes the folks whom seem addicted to drama or a negative perspective are just having a completely different experience than others in the situation. No less important or valuable, but definitely different. This is very common in a relationship, especially a new one so I’d like to shed a little light on it.

For starters, I’d like to relieve you of the term drama or the idea of being too negative when it comes to inter-relationship dynamics. It quickly diminishes the concern at hand and when you seek to lessen the impact of something for which you do not have all of the information, it disables you from getting that information accurately. Instead of drama or negativity, let’s use the word PAIN. Any sort of drama a person expresses is sourced from some level of pain: past or present. People like to resort to these terms because it’s common in relationships to project pain onto a partner when they are not the cause.

Actually, you can take that as a compliment. Seriously, if someone is projecting their pain onto your relationship with them, they are doing it for one of two reasons. First, is that they feel safe with you. Often people who have lived through tumultuous experiences or abuse of some sort have difficulty expressing it unless and until they feel safe.

Don’t get me wrong, I’m not saying, “Hey, it’s okay that they treat you like a jerk…they feel safe.”

But, what I am saying is their experience of safety and trust in you allows for them to dig a little deeper into the landmine wounds of their soul, consciously or unconsciously. Which in the land of human transformation is a glorious momentous occasion and opportunity for healing.

The second reason is a little different. It relates to the first reason in that when people first come together, they meet spirit to spirit. For many couples this spiritual introduction is unconscious and it is the presence of reaction and the illusion of drama that let you know there is a deeper meeting of the spirit. I call it the 50/50.

The 50/50 Rule

lesbian couple, lgbt, gay, love, holding hands, women, intimacy, partners“The operating rule of thumb as the burgeoning independence grows inside of you, and ultimately in your relationships, is called the 50/50 Rule. It’s the understanding that everything that you encounter on every level—from thoughts, feelings, experiences, and events—is somehow connected to you, and you contribute half of their purpose. The idea is that you need the way things are happening in your life at any given time, as do the people with whom you participate.

The intensity with which you speak to someone is a direct result of their density and vice versa.”

—Heal Your Soul History: Activate the True Power of Your Shadow, book 2 of The Demon Slayer’s Handbook Series (2017); Tracee Dunblazier

Everyone has an unconscious lock and key. It is the part of their spirit that expresses itself through what it attracts or provokes in another. One person energetically provokes another to express themselves in a particular way.

For example: you desire to be treated with respect but you deeply fear one’s hostility. Or, you deeply dislike your partner to touch your forehead…yet they keep doing it over and over. Or, you find cursing abhorable, yet no matter how many times you say it, your partner talks like a sailor. (No disrespect, I know all sailors don’t curse.) These are the subtle little ways we gnaw at the spiritual fibers of our relationship…they cause the negativity (pronounce the pain) because they appear to be meaningless irritations and idiosyncrasies that occur over and over in our relationships as petty discomfort and conflicts.

What we may not be taking into consideration is the unspoken information that is being triggered. A person who has experienced abuse in their lifetime or any form of racism or bigotry may be triggered by any appearance of disrespect. The person who doesn’t like their forehead touched: maybe had a concussion from falling forehead first, out of a tree. A person who doesn’t like cursing may be an ultra-sensitive and feel the impact of the harsh language viscerally or maybe they had an alcoholic parent that cursed at them all the time. No matter how you slice it, unprocessed pain from any time in our conscious or spiritual life remains intact and finds ways of being brought to the surface for healing.

So, if you find yourself in a place in your relationship or with a specific partner who triggers you continually, consider these things.

  1. Consider that the discord in your relationship is not caused by your partner or a product of the relationship at all.
  2. Ask yourself what the feeling is, that is provoked when you feel triggered by your partner?
  3. Take some time away from your partner to reflect on those feelings and get to the origin of them.
  4. Let your partner know clearly that you understand that they are not the cause of your pain or discomfort but what they are doing is making the wound you carry obvious to you.
  5. Make an agreement with yourself and the specific emotional wound in question that you are ready to receive healing on all levels.

In our culture, we love drama. We support it in many ways daily. So if you find yourself with a little extra, know this: The more quickly you embrace it and get to the core of its message to you, the more peace you will have for yourself and in your relationship.

 

Free Download TN (1)The first installment of Tracee’s The Demon Slayer’s Handbook Series, Master Your Inner World- Embrace Your Power with Joy was published in May of this year. She is offering a free book download any time between June 9th-17th on any Amazon, Nook, or Kobo site.

Book description:

Are you haunted? Demons know about you. You should know about them.

Every day we are exposed to negative influences that impact us on all levels. Discover what they are and how to wield your power to transform or repel them

This book will demystify and unravel confusion around complete self-acceptance and the healing of your inner world, and ultimately your outer world. Gain a brave new perspective of the multiple dimensions of energy that can influence you and understand the profound magnitude of your power in any situation.

The choices you make change your relationships and dictate how other worldly beings and the dimensions they live in can affect you. By understanding what they are and where they come from, you give wisdom to their purpose.

Respecting all beings gives you an advantage in your physical world. This book is a game changer for anyone who suffers.

Fight the devil and win, one demon at a time:

Learn the spiritual process of what it means to be a Slayer.
Develop your psychic and spiritual awareness through creating a sacred space at home.
Discover what a demon and other spiritual entities truly are in all paradigms.
Know the spiritual purpose of anger and grief and learn how to master strong emotions.
Understand how your personality relates to your relationships.
Learn what it means to use telepathy to protect yourself.
Receive a new framework for healing, from the Soul to the body.

Ready for conscious, like-minded individuals you really want to meet?

Register with MeetMindful for free today—the fastest growing dating site for conscious singles.

About the Author:

Tracee Dunblazier Tracee Dunblazier

Tracee Dunblazier, GC-C, CCDC, spiritual empath, shaman, educator, author and speaker is based in Los Angeles, California. Tracee specializes in grief counseling, energy dynamics, Shamanic healing, past life and soul recovery, transition strategy, addiction transformation, and space clearings. In 2015, Tracee founded GoTracee Publishing LLC and BeASlayer.com to publish a new hybrid of self-help, memoir, and spiritual book to access a wider audience of spiritual seekers. As a multi-sensitive, Tracee blends information that she receives intuitively with different modalities to create a unique healing plan for every client. Every session is focused on freeing the client from their presenting issue to release, empower, and heal – no matter what the condition. Tracee’s compassionate, humorous, down-to-earth style supports and empowers clients as tender topics are addressed during the session. An accomplished author, Tracee has written two books on the topic of personal soul excavation and deep healing from soul to body. Book one: The Demon Slayer’s handbook: A Practical Guide to Mastering Your Inner World addresses inner mental, emotional, and spiritual mastery through self-awareness and spirit guide communication. Book two: The Demon Slayer’s handbook: A Practical Guide to Self- Healing and Unconditional Love empowers cultural awareness and understanding through looking at the concept of past lives and soul imprints. Tracee’s published articles cover many subjects related to spirituality and relationships while her blog breaks down current events and daily energy dynamics that everyone experiences. Tracee’s been a guest on many prominent television and radio programs informing others about spirituality and sacred ritual practices. Tracee teaches workshops, webinars, and offers two online courses on the DailyOm.com. As well as speaking engagements touching on subjects like grief, death & dying, unconditional love, self- acceptance, and healing.

The Science of Laughter

Author Name: Caitlin Berens
Publish Date:
Website Link: http://wanderlust.com/journal/the-science-of-laughter/

Beyond being a joyful and fun activity, laughter has some real body benefits—from our heart system to our heart center.

As I stood among strangers, something erupted. It traveled from one person to the next, and then it reached me. Before I knew it, I was overcome with it too.

Laughter.

It’s universal, it’s unifying, it breaks the ice, and it’s good for your health. But how? What’s really happening inside our bodies when we chuckle, giggle, tee-hee, snicker, or guffaw?

Laughter is shared throughout humanity. To laugh with someone is to know someone, to forget worries and pain, if only momentarily. We know that feeling of lightness, of relief when we laugh at an awkward or tough situation and realize, it’s actually kind of funny—and things aren’t that bad. There’s a reason comedians visit military bases and hospitals: Laughing makes us feel better.

But it’s not just in our imagination. The science is in: This blissful power of laughter is a natural part of us, outside and in.

The Laughter Within

When we laugh, we involve the whole body. Our face, our brain, our lungs, our blood vessels—even our chakras get in on the action. Our vocal chords vibrate with a ho-ho-ho, a ha-ha-ha, or a he-he-he. As we experience a heartier laugh, we exhale longer, removing “stale air” from our lungs. It’s like spring cleaning for your insides. The inhale that follows then fills the lungs with fresh air and more oxygen while our chest and facial muscles contract with glee.

“Laughter results in greater than average expulsion of the residual air in our lungs and then adds a fresh supply of oxygen that enriches our blood to nourish our heart, brain, and body tissues,” says Michael Miller, MD, a professor at the University of Maryland School of Medicine and the director of the Center for Preventive Cardiology at the University of Maryland Medical Center.

The giggles are also good for your heart. In a 2005 study on laughter in response to humor, Dr. Miller and his fellow researchers found that laughter can help dilate blood vessels and improve their function by reducing their stiffness and increasing their flexibility. Why do we want flexible arteries? Increased stiffness can lead to hardened arteries, which ups the risk of having a heart attack or stroke. “Laughter practiced as part of a healthy lifestyle may help to slow aging of our blood vessels,” says Dr. Miller, author of the book Heal Your Heart.

On top of aiding our cardiovascular system, laughter can also give our immune system a boost. “Laughter is associated with an increased production of cells (predominantly B and T cells) that help to ward off infection,” says Dr. Miller. So if you had older siblings who used to tickle you to the point where you were roaring with laughter and had to scream for them to stop, you may actually owe them a thank you. And if you ever laughed so hard you almost couldn’t stand, that’s science too: In addition to the obvious muscles seizing up, the other ones may become more relaxed or less coordinated (so there’s some truth to being “weak with laughter”).

The Healing Properties of Laughter

It should come as no surprise that laughter is good for our minds, too. Have you ever noticed you feel less stressed when you laugh? Not only does it distract us from worry, laughter also helps restrain stress hormones.

“Laughter causes regions of the brain that regulate emotions to ‘light up,’ ” says Dr. Miller. “These regions suppress the release of the stress hormone cortisol and activate the brain’s memory center, the hippocampus.” This explains why so many of your most memorable moments involve laughter.

In addition to alleviating stress and giving our memory a boost, laughter can lead to bliss. Research suggests that hearty, genuine laughter releases endorphins, the brain’s “feel-good” chemicals that help diminish pain while triggering positive feelings. That’s why laughter feels so good—euphoric, even.

“Endorphins help relieve pain when you laugh,” says Jodi J. De Luca, PhD, a licensed clinical psychologist at Boulder Community Hospital. Laughter helps resolve “all types of pain, not just physical pain, but emotional and psychological pain as well—which can sometimes be more damaging and devastating because we can’t see them.”

Photo by Yumi Sakugawa

Illustration by Yumi Sakugawa

In the face of unspeakable sorrow or heartbreak, we often find ourselves laughing because we are incapable of any other physical response. We laugh to reframe the hurt, to help us cope and adjust our perspective.

“The final stage of transformation and change is the ability to laugh at and gain an outside perspective, a more expanded perspective, on whatever it is you are going through,” says Tracee Dunblazier, a certified grief counselor, spiritual empath, shaman, author, and speaker. “You don’t ever unknow a trauma, but you change your relationship so dramatically to it that you become a different person in it.”

But what if you don’t feel like it? What if it wasn’t just getting stood up on a date, or having a bad day? What if we received news that hit us hard, that took away our joy?

What if we got diagnosed with cancer?

That’s where Katherine Puckett, PhD, chief of the Division of Mind-Body Medicine at Cancer Treatment Centers of America (CTCA) comes in: leading laughter therapy. “As you know cancer is not a laughing matter,” she says. “But laughter does allow patients—anybody, really—to find relief from the stress and the pain and the discomfort of cancer and cancer treatment. It allows people to remember they can still enjoy life. That’s one of the most important things.”

Dr. Puckett first introduced laughter therapy to the other mind–body offerings of counseling and stress management at CTCA in 2004. “We started it in response to a request from a patient who said ‘you need some more fun around here.’ ” Since then she has received many positive responses from participants and their families. She says that patients who have experienced laughter therapy say that it provides them with a time and space where they don’t think about their diagnosis, and often revel in just “how long it’s been since they laughed.” It reconnects them to joy.

That joy is similar to the feeling we find on our yoga mats. “There’s a deep well of joy within us, and laughter yoga opens up your well of joy,” says Beth Bongar (aka Laughing Diva), a laughter yoga teacher of 10 years. “Remember, it’s not about ‘real’ or ‘spontaneous’ laughter necessarily—although this is likely to happen if you practice laughter yoga, especially when the going gets rough,” she says.

Laughter yoga incorporates yogic breathing—pranayama—to get the body to an aerobic state in order to laugh, whether you feel like it or not. According to Bongar: “If you’re not in the mood, which is not a requirement, think of laughter yoga as physical, mental, and/or spiritual exercises that have benefits backed by science.” Though it’s different than a typical yoga class, some common poses are used, as well as some, perhaps unexpected, mantras. “Ha-ha ho-ho, ho-ho ha-ha is a mantra,” says Bongar.

Laughter Aligns With Our Chakras

The powerful energy of different types of laughter connects with our chakras. Tracee Dunblazier, a certified grief counselor and author, shares her work from Master Your Inner World: Embrace Your Power With Joy. “Energetically, the heart opens or expands when we laugh and allows for all of the other energy centers (chakras) to release denser energies and align with the higher frequencies that enter the body.” There are three different kinds of laughs that interact with their corresponding chakras:

  • The chortle laugh is centered in the head and throat and expands the throat chakra, allowing a better flow of communication.
  • The guffaw laugh is centered in the belly, expands the second and third chakras, and will help you release your fear of not being able to control the situation, allowing you to find an empowering position in it.
  • The chuckle is centered in the heart, the place in the physical body where we create hormones of peace and the energy center where we align with our higher self. The chuckle opens the heart, allowing for a stronger flow of energy to the rest of the system.”

Illustration by Yumi Sakugawa

Illustration by Yumi Sakugawa

The Contagious Power of Laughter

On top of laughter’s effects inside your body, and its use as a great coping mechanism, laughter also serves as a social connector—and a contagious one at that. Research suggests that hearing laughter triggers our brain to automatically prime us to smile or laugh. If you’ve ever smirked while walking by someone letting out a belly laugh, this is why.

“When you look in people’s eyes, it is so easy to laugh, it just activates our inner laughter,” says Bongar. “It’s really great to connect, and that is what makes you laugh, naturally—connection.”

It comes down to a few things: the twinkle or gleeful crease around the eyes, the mirthful smile, a “lit up” face, the radiating energy, and that joyous, distinctive sound of laughter. “You have a visceral reaction to somebody’s laughter,” says Dunblazier.

Part of the contagiousness of laughter is also the “infectious” energy exchange that occurs. “With laughter you take the energy information and you project it outwards so it becomes infectious to others,” says Dunblazier. As the adage goes, out with the old, in with the new. “As you begin to laugh you are letting go of old energy and you are creating a space in your body for new energy to flow through. And you transmit that and it is absolutely an exchange—it’s an exchange of joy.”

So go out and laugh today—it won’t only make you smile, it’ll help your health, refresh your perspective, and, who knows—you might just make a friend.

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3 Principles for Opening Your Mind, Heart & Home to Love

Author Name: Tracee Dunblazier
Publish Date: May 2, 2016
Website Link: https://www.meetmindful.com/opening-your-mind-heart-home-to-love/

Opening your mind, heart, and home to love starts with three simple principles. Let’s get started.

Welcoming Love

The three most important principles for opening your mind, heart, and home to love are cleaning and clearing, welcoming love, and harmoniously having the object of your desire. Love comes to us in our lives, in many ways, subtle and overt. The more we recognize the subtle ways love comes to us, the more harmoniously we will embrace the overt ways we engage in the giving and receiving of love.

Believe it or not, human beings need to give love more than we need to receive it… and the Jedi mind trick here is that receiving love is a natural response to having given it. The more you give love freely, the more it finds its way back to you. Keeping that in mind, here are the changes to make to manifest more love.

Receiving Love

The most important thing to do when you want to have more love in your life is to create space for it, literally. Getting rid of clutter, cleaning out drawers, and having as much surface space in all the rooms of the home—but especially the bedroom—is vital. Once you have cleared all that space and had a garage sale, it’s time to clean.

Start with the bathroom and kitchen. Those two rooms in the house are where energy is piped in and released all day. You really want to scrub the baseboards and walls, and all of the appliances and fixtures, and keep the lid down on the toilet. Take my word for it, there is nothing sexier than a clean bathroom corner.

Giving Love

A person’s preparedness to give and receive love is always evident in their home if you really look. Take a moment to take your own inventory. How much extra space do you have? How clean is your environment? Do you have past memorabilia up everywhere, or is it concentrated to one area? On a scale of one to 10, 10 being ready, how prepared are you? There are quite a few enhancers to support love and relationship in your life.

Chances are: If you have a lot of past relationship memorabilia, you’re not really open to a new one. So it’s important to mark the heralding of a new time for love in your life. Some of my favorite ways are: planting a lime tree in the Southwest sector of your garden, placing pictures of Peonies, or a pair of something—say, flowers, animals, or whatever resonates with you will work—in your living room and bedroom. These are all symbol’s of a happy relationship.

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About the Author

Tracee Dunblazier, GC-C, CCDC, spiritual empath, shaman, educator, author and speaker is a regular contributor to MeetMindful who is based in Los Angeles, California. Tracee specializes in grief counseling, energy dynamics, Shamanic healing, past life and soul recovery, transition strategy, addiction transformation, and space clearings.

About the Author

Tracee Dunblazier, GC-C, CCDC, spiritual empath, shaman, educator, author and speaker is a regular contributor to MeetMindful who is based in Los Angeles, California. Tracee specializes in grief counseling, energy dynamics, Shamanic healing, past life and soul recovery, transition strategy, addiction transformation, and space clearings.

How Personal Transformation Can Help or Hinder Relationship

Author Name: Tracee Dunblazier
Publish Date: May 15, 2016
Website Link: https://www.meetmindful.com/how-personal-transformation-can-help-hinder/

When we’re experiencing our own phase of personal transformation, we sometimes forget it can have very real implications for our relationships.


Under all circumstances, wanting to be a better person is admirable. It’s something we all strive for. But, what happens to your relationship when you make those long sought after changes? It should make everything better, right? Personal transformation and relationships are a funny thing; as you understand the first, the impact on the second—while maybe not pleasurable—makes sense.

Enlightenment is a process of lightening up. Meaning: your burden, confusion, and selfishness are giving way to joy, clarity, and presence. Sometimes we enter into relationships that are based on the burdens we carry and the very thing that we are trying to unload. It makes perfect sense that the relationships centered around our deepest wounds can disappear as quickly as the process of healing them.

Burden to Joy:

What is a burden, really? It’s the weight of your ungrieved spirit seeking acknowledgement and release. The more you receive its presence with compassion it transforms into grief. Embracing this process creates a lightness unlike any other experience you can have, not even a good adrenaline rush compares.

In a relationship:

The beginning perception of a person who is new to the process of transformation to their stationary partner is repulsion. They begin to witness their movement and lightness in reference to the perceived negativity or misery of their partner. Phrases like higher or lower vibration, positive or negative attitude, or old or new soul are all common in this phase of development. It’s true that a relationship created in this place is all about inner conflict and outer struggle. It’s possible to make this work but you must choose patience.

Confusion to Clarity:

It is through our emotions that we decipher and relate to our world. Confusion then, is the next logical phase of lightening up. Confusion means you are fluctuating between dominance and submission. In certain scenarios you perceive and desire the illusion of control, while in others you give over to the dominance of others.

In a relationship:

This phase of lightening up helps you to consciously recognize that you see your world through how you see yourself. Victimization is a popular sentiment in this process, so a relationship here can often be volatile and steeped in conflict. Sometimes, over as quickly as it starts. The true spiritual purpose of these relationships are to promote the release of ungrieved pain on every level. On the up side: they are an efficient way of healing.

Selfishness to Presence:

Self-awareness is not a gift, it is earned over lifetimes and the hard won battles of self-mastery. The process of becoming present is to recognize that your anger is a tool you use to be present in the moment when you are not. The more you can, not get mad, but become present to what is happening, the easier you will recognize whatever you may need in the moment and readily have access to it.

In a relationship:

Peacefulness to a victim, is boring. If that phrase made you angry, you are contending with your burdens but will soon experience a powerful transformation. If that phrase made you irritated or sad but you heard it, you are squarely in your confusion here, and your goal is to surrender to the emotional movement at this time. Don’t try to understand right now, just feel. If you giggled a little at this phrase because you know that’s right, you have surrendered to being at peace with your past and feel anchored in your present. No matter which response you have, you will attract partners who mirror the same thing back to you.

It’s important to understand we are all traveling through all of these phases of enlightenment at any given time and in relationship to different circumstances. A truly enlightened person knows it is not the absence of burden that gives us wisdom… it is the joy with which we pummel each one that does. So do yourself a favor: In your relationships, be patient with yourself love one another and don’t resist the flow of movement. It’s the shortest distance to exactly where you want to go.

 

 

Free Download TN (1)The first installment of Tracee’s The Demon Slayer’s Handbook Series, Master Your Inner World- Embrace Your Power with Joy was published in May of this year. She is offering a free book download any time between June 9th-17th on any Amazon, Nook, or Kobo site.

Book description:

Are you haunted? Demons know about you. You should know about them.

Every day we are exposed to negative influences that impact us on all levels. Discover what they are and how to wield your power to transform or repel them

This book will demystify and unravel confusion around complete self-acceptance and the healing of your inner world, and ultimately your outer world. Gain a brave new perspective of the multiple dimensions of energy that can influence you and understand the profound magnitude of your power in any situation.

The choices you make change your relationships and dictate how other worldly beings and the dimensions they live in can affect you. By understanding what they are and where they come from, you give wisdom to their purpose.

Respecting all beings gives you an advantage in your physical world. This book is a game changer for anyone who suffers.

Fight the devil and win, one demon at a time:

Learn the spiritual process of what it means to be a Slayer.
Develop your psychic and spiritual awareness through creating a sacred space at home.
Discover what a demon and other spiritual entities truly are in all paradigms.
Know the spiritual purpose of anger and grief and learn how to master strong emotions.
Understand how your personality relates to your relationships.
Learn what it means to use telepathy to protect yourself.
Receive a new framework for healing, from the Soul to the body.

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Tracee Dunblazier, GC-C, CCDC, spiritual empath, shaman, educator, author and speaker is based in Los Angeles, California. Tracee specializes in grief counseling, energy dynamics, Shamanic healing, past life and soul recovery, transition strategy, addiction transformation, and space clearings. In 2015, Tracee founded GoTracee Publishing LLC and BeASlayer.com to publish a new hybrid of self-help, memoir, and spiritual book to access a wider audience of spiritual seekers. As a multi-sensitive, Tracee blends information that she receives intuitively with different modalities to create a unique healing plan for every client. Every session is focused on freeing the client from their presenting issue to release, empower, and heal – no matter what the condition. Tracee’s compassionate, humorous, down-to-earth style supports and empowers clients as tender topics are addressed during the session. An accomplished author, Tracee has written two books on the topic of personal soul excavation and deep healing from soul to body. Book one: The Demon Slayer’s handbook: A Practical Guide to Mastering Your Inner World addresses inner mental, emotional, and spiritual mastery through self-awareness and spirit guide communication. Book two: The Demon Slayer’s handbook: A Practical Guide to Self- Healing and Unconditional Love empowers cultural awareness and understanding through looking at the concept of past lives and soul imprints. Tracee’s published articles cover many subjects related to spirituality and relationships while her blog breaks down current events and daily energy dynamics that everyone experiences. Tracee’s been a guest on many prominent television and radio programs informing others about spirituality and sacred ritual practices. Tracee teaches workshops, webinars, and offers two online courses on the DailyOm.com. As well as speaking engagements touching on subjects like grief, death & dying, unconditional love, self- acceptance, and healing.

3 Principles for Opening Your Mind, Heart & Home to Love

Author Name: MeetMindful
Publish Date: May 18, 2016
Website Link: http://yoganonymous.com/3-principles-for-opening-your-mind-heart-home-to-love

Opening your mind, heart, and home to love starts with three simple principles. Tracee Dunblazier walks us through the finer points to letting love in.


Welcoming Love

The three most important principles for opening your mind, heart, and home to love are: cleaning and clearing, welcoming love, and harmoniously having the object of your desire. Love comes to us in our lives, in many ways, subtle and overt. The more we recognize the subtle ways love comes to us, the more harmoniously we will embrace the overt ways we engage in the giving and receiving of love.

Believe it or not, human beings need to give love more than we need to receive it… and the Jedi mind trick here is that receiving love is a natural response to having given it. The more you give love freely, the more it finds its way back to you. Keeping that in mind, here are the changes to make to manifest more love.

Receiving Love

The most important thing to do when you want to have more love in your life is to create space for it, literally. Getting rid of clutter, cleaning out drawers, and having as much surface space in all the rooms of the home—but especially the bedroom—is vital. Once you have cleared all that space and had a garage sale, it’s time to clean.

Start with the bathroom and kitchen. Those two rooms in the house are where energy is piped in and released all day. You really want to scrub the baseboards and walls, and all of the appliances and fixtures, and keep the lid down on the toilet. Take my word for it, there is nothing sexier than a clean bathroom corner.

Giving Love

A person’s preparedness to give and receive love is always evident in their home if you really look. Take a moment to take your own inventory. How much extra space do you have? How clean is your environment? Do you have past memorabilia up everywhere, or is it concentrated to one area? On a scale of 1-10, 10 being ready, how prepared are you? There are quite a few enhancers to support love and relationship in your life.

Chances are: If you have a lot of past relationship memorabilia, you’re not really open to a new one. So it’s important to mark the heralding of a new time for love in your life. Some of my favorite ways are: planting a lime tree in the Southwest sector of your garden, placing pictures of Peonies, or a pair of something—say, flowers, animals, or whatever resonates with you will work—in your living room and bedroom. These are all symbol’s of a happy relationship.

Creating Love

It’s true that your heart radiates harmony to all you come in contact with: all of your life situations. If you have the relationship that you want with yourself, you will easily be able to live with the new love that you draw to you. I believe the meaning of eternal life is: it’s our human and spiritual birthright to transmute and transform anything that causes imbalance in us; to completely heal on all levels.

One of the most impactful downfalls of any relationship is the sometimes-daily disregards we receive from our partners or the ways we may be subtly neglecting them. The way your friend spoke to you when she was disgusted with something else, or when your lover made a joke and didn’t notice it wasn’t funny to you and slightly hurtful, or maybe your boss, in their stressful day, spoke sharply to you. Any one of these seemingly harmless gaffs, over time, add up to frustration, resentment, and unexpressed grief. Which leads to distrust, bitterness, and withdrawing of affection…I could go on and on with this list. Every relationship we have needs loving maintenance: friends, lovers, colleagues, and of course, ourselves.

Consistent self-reflection and taking inventory about your thoughts, feelings, and actions can really help. We may not be perfect, but it’s really important to be self-aware. Every time you reflect, then strategize, on what you can do and say next time to include everyone, you create more space for love.

Renew Your Love

Remember: having compassion for others, in addition to yourself, is the goal. There will begin to be a cultivation of your own self-trust. The more you trust yourself and your own integrity the more you are able to accurately discern those who you can deeply trust.

You may find that not every relationship will end up staying in their current position in your Universe. Some people we can deeply trust, and some people we know better than to trust. Either way, what’s most important is our self-honesty.

Creating more space for love and cultivating your awareness of yourself, your environment, and others will allow and promote a loving flow in your life. Most importantly, finding new and conscientious ways to express and receive love in your life and being honest, will be the renewable resource of love that you’re looking for.

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About the Author:

Tracee Dunblazier Tracee Dunblazier

Tracee Dunblazier, GC-C, CCDC, spiritual empath, shaman, educator, author and speaker is based in Los Angeles, California. Tracee specializes in grief counseling, energy dynamics, Shamanic healing, past life and soul recovery, transition strategy, addiction transformation, and space clearings. In 2015, Tracee founded GoTracee Publishing LLC and BeASlayer.com to publish a new hybrid of self-help, memoir, and spiritual book to access a wider audience of spiritual seekers. As a multi-sensitive, Tracee blends information that she receives intuitively with different modalities to create a unique healing plan for every client. Every session is focused on freeing the client from their presenting issue to release, empower, and heal – no matter what the condition. Tracee’s compassionate, humorous, down-to-earth style supports and empowers clients as tender topics are addressed during the session. An accomplished author, Tracee has written two books on the topic of personal soul excavation and deep healing from soul to body. Book one: The Demon Slayer’s handbook: A Practical Guide to Mastering Your Inner World addresses inner mental, emotional, and spiritual mastery through self-awareness and spirit guide communication. Book two: The Demon Slayer’s handbook: A Practical Guide to Self- Healing and Unconditional Love empowers cultural awareness and understanding through looking at the concept of past lives and soul imprints. Tracee’s published articles cover many subjects related to spirituality and relationships while her blog breaks down current events and daily energy dynamics that everyone experiences. Tracee’s been a guest on many prominent television and radio programs informing others about spirituality and sacred ritual practices. Tracee teaches workshops, webinars, and offers two online courses on the DailyOm.com. As well as speaking engagements touching on subjects like grief, death & dying, unconditional love, self- acceptance, and healing.

How do I handle attachment?

Author Name: Tracee Dunblazier
Publish Date: April 18, 2016
Website Link: https://www.meetmindful.com/how-do-i-handle-attachment/

In the mindful community, we strive for non-attachment in our lives (and relationships). But attachment, when treated with care, can teach us a great deal.


Author’s note: The following is a little sneak preview of an excerpt from my third book of The Demon Slayer’s Handbook Series; A Practical Guide to Karmic Relationships.*

Understanding our general relationship dynamics is profound, but add to it the spiritual dynamics of all that lies beneath and you can have a real carnival show. Fun and entertaining, yet confusing. Pleasurably filled with joy, yet devastating. Here is the inside scoop on how to dig deep for the nuggets of Gold you were born with.

Attachment = Vulnerability = Receptivity

The best way to handle something is to investigate it head on: find a way to break it down into smaller digestible pieces and eventually understand it. That’s why so many of us get overwhelmed in relationships when we’re in the process of getting to know someone. Sometimes the emotional doors fly open and we feel intensely close to someone in a very short period of time; or, conversely, we spend an inordinate amount of time and energy trying to keep those doors closed.

I thought it might be helpful to look at attachment as a skill, from the prospective of personal responsibility. After all: it’s your door and you can open it if you want, it takes more work to keep the door shut, and if you keep inviting someone to knock at your door, but never open it for them, they’ll get bored and leave. Nobody wants to sit and stare at a closed door—unless of course, they have open doors in other houses.

The most important thing to understand is that attachment and openness in a relationship are the same thing. Yes, the same thing. The only difference is your perception and level of self-trust. And, of course, our sense of self comes from many factors like: our spiritual patterns, what we think, what we’ve seen, and what we’ve experienced. I’ve broken it down to three main levels. Truly, there are many more, but grasping and holding on to these three will begin to build your confidence and understanding of where you’re at.

You can only change what you know to change.

Attachment is for Beginners:

Feeling attached to someone is experiencing an immense—and at times abrupt—spiritual emotional connection. It’s most difficult to manage this when you’ve just met someone and aren’t quite sure of the content of their character. So, when this happens, try your best: not to sweat the small stuff, be too pushy or emotionally overbearing, or give ultimatums.

This is the time to communicate freely and deliberately about who you are, what you like, and where you’re at. Often when people feel overly attached they focus a lot on what they want and don’t want in a relationship—which normally is a good thing; however in this instance, it’s usually coming from a fear of not getting what you need.

Instead, focus on what you like, be willing to set gentle boundaries, and to respect the boundaries of others. If you’re in a longer-term relationship: attachment often stems from dishonesty, minimal communication, or a crisis of some sort. In this case, communication is king. It’s natural to feel insecure when you’re not getting all of the information you need or when your emotional and mental bodies are being taxed because of trauma. Stop, breathe, speak, and listen and know this too, shall pass.

love, gay couple, beach, sunshine, happyVulnerability is for Amateurs:

Attachment is being vulnerable to someone. When you open your heart in an authentic way, or are emotionally or sexually connected, you intermingle spiritually and energetically. Anxiety, intense emotion, or thinking about someone all of the time, lets you know they’ve entered your spirit. Anxiety in a relationship often is a note from your lover saying they’re in your house but not necessarily home. It doesn’t mean you or they are in love; it means you are connected and there is an openness and opportunity to love.

Being vulnerable to someone means you are in a natural place of openness. It requires of you three things: maturity, patience, and kindness. Those are the first three trust-building skills we need to master in order to find peace and authenticity in our vulnerability.

Being vulnerable to someone means the power they have over us is directly related to the value we give to them or put on them. And, how you value someone is in your control alone. Have patience to allow the natural unfolding of getting to know someone. No need to push the river. Maturity allows you to know when and how to set personal boundaries, and kindness is the key to persevering through confusion and enduring in the relationship.

Receptivity is for Professionals:

A real attachment professional is in constant communication with himself. She knows the things that trigger her and is willing to walk herself through them. He knows that a deep-level connection with someone ebbs and flows all of the time; and when you’re in a deep state of receptivity with another person you feel when they are present in the relationship and when they are not. If your lover has pulled their energy back, they’ve not necessarily left the situation, they’ve only connected to other things of value in their lives.

This pulling back of energy can be unnerving to you if you’re the least bit unclear about the reason. That’s why your willingness and ability to speak openly with candor and grace is so important. The subtle way you language things will be the difference between peace or conflict.

Staying in the first person present tense with a focus on personal responsibility is your friend.

Saying things like: I am, I will, I feel, all for the purpose of expressing yourself and then promoting the expression of your lover. When you’re receptive to another, they in no way are the cause of your feelings, experiences, or troubles. You are. How you feel is an indication of your possible need to express yourself, grieve, or set boundaries: all things you control.

Being at a professional level means you know this and are willing to take responsibility. Not that you know how or do it well. Believe me, that’s a skill with a huge learning curve and takes daily practice. It is mostly our romantic relationships that bring out our most submerged wounds to be healed. For they connect with us the most deeply, at least for a period of time.

As a spiritual empath, I am in some sort of deep connection with a few people always—understanding my attachment is the way I telepathically communicate with them at any given time. It’s been quite a journey to understand that things weren’t necessarily the way I felt them to be, but an expression of my connection and perception. In which knowing myself first was the way to recognizing what I’m feeling versus what I may be empathetically or intuitively aware of in another.

Knowing and trusting yourself has its own learning curve that comes over time and through awareness. Surrendering yourself to attachment, vulnerability, and receptivity is the shortest path to get there. Go with courage!

 

*BeASlayer.com

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Tracee Dunblazier Tracee Dunblazier

Tracee Dunblazier, GC-C, CCDC, spiritual empath, shaman, educator, author and speaker is based in Los Angeles, California. Tracee specializes in grief counseling, energy dynamics, Shamanic healing, past life and soul recovery, transition strategy, addiction transformation, and space clearings. In 2015, Tracee founded GoTracee Publishing LLC and BeASlayer.com to publish a new hybrid of self-help, memoir, and spiritual book to access a wider audience of spiritual seekers. As a multi-sensitive, Tracee blends information that she receives intuitively with different modalities to create a unique healing plan for every client. Every session is focused on freeing the client from their presenting issue to release, empower, and heal – no matter what the condition. Tracee’s compassionate, humorous, down-to-earth style supports and empowers clients as tender topics are addressed during the session. An accomplished author, Tracee has written two books on the topic of personal soul excavation and deep healing from soul to body. Book one: The Demon Slayer’s handbook: A Practical Guide to Mastering Your Inner World addresses inner mental, emotional, and spiritual mastery through self-awareness and spirit guide communication. Book two: The Demon Slayer’s handbook: A Practical Guide to Self- Healing and Unconditional Love empowers cultural awareness and understanding through looking at the concept of past lives and soul imprints. Tracee’s published articles cover many subjects related to spirituality and relationships while her blog breaks down current events and daily energy dynamics that everyone experiences. Tracee’s been a guest on many prominent television and radio programs informing others about spirituality and sacred ritual practices. Tracee teaches workshops, webinars, and offers two online courses on the DailyOm.com. As well as speaking engagements touching on subjects like grief, death & dying, unconditional love, self- acceptance, and healing.

The Difference Between Loving Someone & Being IN LOVE

Author Name: Tracee Dunblazier
Publish Date: April 11, 2016
Website Link: https://www.meetmindful.com/loving-someone-being-in-love/

Do you love them or are you in love with them? The question presents an opportunity to dig down and deeply understand what being in love is all about.


I love: love! There is no other way to say it.

I love the giddy stomach-churning, heart palpitating joy of a loving connection. I even enjoy the heart-wrenching struggle of overcoming the inevitable disappointment that comes with it. You know, the cosmic turn of events that require you to champion the fun love that seems to have briefly disappeared, so you can get it back? Yes, I even love the work that love, at times, requires.

There are many phases to a relationship but there are only two intertwining phases to love. One, is the initial connecting of the body, mind, heart, and spirit. The second is the succession of choices made over and over that contribute to the living love that two people end up with in their relationship.

Make no mistake about it: Love is no joke. It’s a lot of work. Working to overcome your fears of intimacy, trust, and even a dawning happiness. I know that sounds strange but being happy can be a daunting task. So, I’d like to take a moment to simplify love.

The Experience of Love:

People connect on many levels: mentally, emotionally, physically, and spiritually. You can fall in love with anyone when you connect on any of these levels. Because the idea of falling in love is the experience of being receptive to the connection and allowing it to happen.

However, people falling in love with each other first fall in love with themselves as they see who they are or who they wish to be in their partner. We experience the falling feeling of love as each of the following elements open up, but when they inevitably close again—as is the way of the universe—the feelings of love are temporal. We are then left with the opportunity to choose love based on our relationship to each element, individually.

More specifically, we connect with another person through our sense of: security, power, open heartedness, communication, values, and ideals. We fall in love as we connect on each level and the more we acclimate to that new experience and the newness of it leaves us, so too, might the love—with only a choice left behind to champion what once was.

The experience of security in a relationship comes when a person feels stronger because of the connection of the relationship or because they feel taken care of and safe that their most basic needs are met.

The experience of power in the relationship is present when at least one of the partners has confidence and the other partner benefits, leaving them both feeling powerful for a time.

The experience of open-heartedness in a relationship comes when two hearts connect for any reason: compassion, sympathy, empathy, joy, grief, or love.

The experience of communication in a relationship happens when there is an easy flow of expression or the support, education, and permission that someone needs to do so.

The experience of shared values with another in a relationship comes from common knowledge and experiences whether they be; geographic, cultural, racial, experiential, spiritual, or emotional.

The experience of shared ideals with another in a relationship come from either a deeper belief in humanity or the shared recognition in a higher power, or at very least, a focus on anything outside the self.

The Process of Love:

Loving somebody is a series of choices we make daily for the opportunity to experience the original rush of love. As we fall more deeply in love with ourselves, we are able to cultivate the most powerful tools required for an enduring, loving relationship to another: trust, kindness, patience, motivation, inspiration, and joy.

Trust is your ability to know that you can recover from anything.

Kindness is your ability to choose a firm graceful boundary where necessary and forgoing the need to be right all of the time.

Patience is the willingness to let things happen in their divine timing rather than the timing that you hope for or expect.

Motivation is the underlying set of beliefs that support a person’s reasons for being in relationship.

Inspiration is the set of cosmic ideals that perpetuate going outside of traditional beliefs in order to keep the loving flow to a relationship.

Joy is the mutual experience of power combined with happiness that creates confidence in a relationship.

Hopefully this mini tutorial has cleared up any confusion on the concept of love. Now, it’s up to you to manifest the action and choice to love. Everyone can fall in love, but having and sustaining the opportunity to love someone, is a privilege.

 

 

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About the Author:

Tracee Dunblazier Tracee Dunblazier

Tracee Dunblazier, GC-C, CCDC, spiritual empath, shaman, educator, author and speaker is based in Los Angeles, California. Tracee specializes in grief counseling, energy dynamics, Shamanic healing, past life and soul recovery, transition strategy, addiction transformation, and space clearings. In 2015, Tracee founded GoTracee Publishing LLC and BeASlayer.com to publish a new hybrid of self-help, memoir, and spiritual book to access a wider audience of spiritual seekers. As a multi-sensitive, Tracee blends information that she receives intuitively with different modalities to create a unique healing plan for every client. Every session is focused on freeing the client from their presenting issue to release, empower, and heal – no matter what the condition. Tracee’s compassionate, humorous, down-to-earth style supports and empowers clients as tender topics are addressed during the session. An accomplished author, Tracee has written two books on the topic of personal soul excavation and deep healing from soul to body. Book one: The Demon Slayer’s handbook: A Practical Guide to Mastering Your Inner World addresses inner mental, emotional, and spiritual mastery through self-awareness and spirit guide communication. Book two: The Demon Slayer’s handbook: A Practical Guide to Self- Healing and Unconditional Love empowers cultural awareness and understanding through looking at the concept of past lives and soul imprints. Tracee’s published articles cover many subjects related to spirituality and relationships while her blog breaks down current events and daily energy dynamics that everyone experiences. Tracee’s been a guest on many prominent television and radio programs informing others about spirituality and sacred ritual practices. Tracee teaches workshops, webinars, and offers two online courses on the DailyOm.com. As well as speaking engagements touching on subjects like grief, death & dying, unconditional love, self- acceptance, and healing.

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