3 Principles for Opening Your Mind, Heart & Home to Love

The three most important principles for opening your mind, heart, and home to love are: cleaning and clearing, welcoming love, and harmoniously having the object of your desire. Love comes to us in our lives, in many ways, subtle and overt. The more we recognize the subtle ways love comes to us, the more harmoniously we will embrace the overt ways we engage in the giving and receiving of love.

Believe it or not, human beings need to give love more than we need to receive it… and the Jedi mind trick here is that receiving love is a natural response to having given it. The more you give love freely, the more it finds its way back to you. Keeping that in mind, here are the changes to make to manifest more love.

The most important thing to do when you want to have more love in your life is to create space for it, literally. Getting rid of clutter, cleaning out drawers, and having as much surface space in all the rooms of the home—but especially the bedroom—is vital. Once you have cleared all that space and had a garage sale, it’s time to clean.

Start with the bathroom and kitchen. Those two rooms in the house are where energy is piped in and released all day. You really want to scrub the baseboards and walls, and all of the appliances and fixtures, and keep the lid down on the toilet. Take my word for it, there is nothing sexier than a clean bathroom corner.

A person’s preparedness to give and receive love is always evident in their home if you really look. Take a moment to take your own inventory. How much extra space do you have? How clean is your environment? Do you have past memorabilia up everywhere, or is it concentrated to one area? On a scale of 1-10, 10 being ready, how prepared are you? There are quite a few enhancers to support love and relationship in your life.

Chances are: If you have a lot of past relationship memorabilia, you’re not really open to a new one. So it’s important to mark the heralding of a new time for love in your life. Some of my favorite ways are: planting a lime tree in the Southwest sector of your garden, placing pictures of Peonies, or a pair of something—say, flowers, animals, or whatever resonates with you will work—in your living room and bedroom. These are all symbol’s of a happy relationship.

It’s true that your heart radiates harmony to all you come in contact with: all of your life situations. If you have the relationship that you want with yourself, you will easily be able to live with the new love that you draw to you. I believe the meaning of eternal life is: it’s our human and spiritual birthright to transmute and transform anything that causes imbalance in us; to completely heal on all levels.

One of the most impactful downfalls of any relationship is the sometimes-daily disregards we receive from our partners or the ways we may be subtly neglecting them. The way your friend spoke to you when she was disgusted with something else, or when your lover made a joke and didn’t notice it wasn’t funny to you and slightly hurtful, or maybe your boss, in their stressful day, spoke sharply to you. Any one of these seemingly harmless gaffs, over time, add up to frustration, resentment, and unexpressed grief. Which leads to distrust, bitterness, and withdrawing of affection…I could go on and on with this list. Every relationship we have needs loving maintenance: friends, lovers, colleagues, and of course, ourselves.

Consistent self-reflection and taking inventory about your thoughts, feelings, and actions can really help. We may not be perfect, but it’s really important to be self-aware. Every time you reflect, then strategize, on what you can do and say next time to include everyone, you create more space for love.

Remember: having compassion for others, in addition to yourself, is the goal. There will begin to be a cultivation of your own self-trust. The more you trust yourself and your own integrity the more you are able to accurately discern those who you can deeply trust.

You may find that not every relationship will end up staying in their current position in your Universe. Some people we can deeply trust, and some people we know better than to trust. Either way, what’s most important is our self-honesty.

Creating more space for love and cultivating your awareness of yourself, your environment, and others will allow and promote a loving flow in your life. Most importantly, finding new and conscientious ways to express and receive love in your life and being honest, will be the renewable resource of love that you’re looking for.