Sick and Tired
I am really sick and tired about people making these moral judgments about politicians. If a guy wants to send a dic pic every now and again, really, what is the problem? I mean if the best way he knows how to handle his personal relationship with his wife is to share naked pictures of himself with other women, really, what’s the harm? They are consenting adults and that’s just how they roll, right? What does that have to do with politics? It is their personal life and it should remain personal. Is it really about moral judgment? Do we really not want our leaders to send pictures of naked body parts to various people or is it the lies, betrayal, and shame that they feel for themselves and their lack of self mastery. What if the press conference went like this…
Anthony and Huma Give Press Conference
Weiner: “Ya, I sent those photos. It’s something I do now and again when I feel stressed or when my wife says something mean. Or, just sometimes when I can’t sleep and I’m bored.”
Huma: “Ya, he can be a real prick sometimes. Whenever we get in a fight he sends naked pictures to other ladies and it makes him feel better. Idiot, ha-ha. Anyway, why are we talking about this? He’s running for Mayor. I thought that was why we were here…”
Acceptance Is the New Guilt
Can we accept our leaders in all of their proclivities if they are upfront and honest about them? If they felt no shame; would it then not become public business? I think that if we want a better society with honest leaders we must start with complete self acceptance. The fantasy that we are any different than the leaders that we vote into office, or that we can separate our personal from professional life is delusional; don’t get me wrong, we all have unique desires and values and certainly deal with our personal temptations differently, but we are whole people. So if we participate in guilt creating situations in our personal life, we will certainly create them in some way in our professional life. Likewise, if we are open, honest, and guiltless in our dealings then possibly our personal lives can remain personal.
Make the Point Already
If I haven’t been clear in my point, then let me do that now. The issue is not about what people like or dislike or what we feel is appropriate for our “leaders”. That is not for me to say and a completely different discussion all together. The issue is the shame we have about being human and the desire we have to hold others to a different standard then we hold ourselves. So, if you want to sext, and it’s in agreement with EVERYONE involved, you don’t have to lie or break the law to do it, then do it, and stop feeling guilty. Likewise, if you don’t want to…then definitely don’t. Either way, I don’t want to know.
