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Is it Fair to Have Expectations for Your Date?

By December 16, 2016 No Comments

Author Name: Tracee Dunblazier
Publish Date: September 22, 2015
Website Link: https://www.meetmindful.com/expectations/

When romantic expectations are set with an open heart, beautiful things happen. But first we have to get clear on what (or who) these expectations are for.


Expectations are a natural part of the creative process, it is a way that we expand our vision of ourselves, our lives and relationships. So, the question isn’t whether or not having them for others is fair, it is whether or not the expectations that you place on your partner are really the unconscious expectations that you have for yourself.

The foundation of truly connecting with and trusting another comes from being aware of your own needs and fulfilling them. Not necessarily placing your needs on others, waiting to have them fulfilled. 

Essentially, trusting yourself enough to be vulnerable with another.

Expectations or Boundaries?

The most important thing to take with you is that expectations in the beginning of a relationship are really just setting boundaries with your partner and negotiating the relationship.

What’s the Real Goal?

Set solid boundaries and learn to accept your partner as they are. 

I knew a gal once who was sure she’d found the perfect man. He fulfilled all her expectations: she’d been clear about them from the beginning. He was tall, cultured, a Sagittarius, had a great job, single with no children, could cook, was funny and engaging. 

A woman couldn’t want anything more. So, a year into the relationship, when he lost his job he said nothing. She’d made it clear that should he fall short of her expectations, she was outta there. For the subsequent two years, every morning he’d leave the house by 7:30 a.m. to get to work on time, or so she thought. In fact, every morning he would travel to his ex-wife’s house and take care of his four children. The ex-wife and children he’d never told her about and he was a Leo!

She’d been so specific and stringent on so many expectations that she didn’t leave a space for him to reveal himself truthfully and a place to be accepted for who he was. Of course, I am not saying that his lies were her fault. Clearly, his lies were the least of his problems. What I am saying is that it’s incredibly easy if you are still developing your relationship to yourself to set up many specific wants and needs that no human can possibly fulfill them. 

Know What You’re Asking For.

The most important thing you can do for yourself is know what it is you are asking for and choose well for yourself. If you want a fortune 500 CEO, don’t expect he/she will have much time for you or romance. Folks who are good at wealth may not specialize in emotional romantic intimacy.  When you enter into a relationship with the expectation and intent to reveal yourself fully, ultimately your partner will need to rise to the occasion and do what is necessary in order to make that happen.

What Can You Expect?

Well, the bottom line is that you can expect to attract the qualities in a person that you spend the most focus on in yourself. So, be kind and loving to yourself. Refuse to be harsh and call yourself names. And, follow through on doing all of those things you say you’re going to do. Making yourself your top priority will attract a person who value’s you in the same way. Go forth with an open heart!

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About the Author:

Tracee Dunblazier Tracee Dunblazier

Tracee Dunblazier, GC-C, CCDC, spiritual empath, shaman, educator, author and speaker is based in Los Angeles, California. Tracee specializes in grief counseling, energy dynamics, Shamanic healing, past life and soul recovery, transition strategy, addiction transformation, and space clearings. In 2015, Tracee founded GoTracee Publishing LLC and BeASlayer.com to publish a new hybrid of self-help, memoir, and spiritual book to access a wider audience of spiritual seekers. As a multi-sensitive, Tracee blends information that she receives intuitively with different modalities to create a unique healing plan for every client. Every session is focused on freeing the client from their presenting issue to release, empower, and heal – no matter what the condition. Tracee’s compassionate, humorous, down-to-earth style supports and empowers clients as tender topics are addressed during the session. An accomplished author, Tracee has written two books on the topic of personal soul excavation and deep healing from soul to body. Book one: The Demon Slayer’s handbook: A Practical Guide to Mastering Your Inner World addresses inner mental, emotional, and spiritual mastery through self-awareness and spirit guide communication. Book two: The Demon Slayer’s handbook: A Practical Guide to Self- Healing and Unconditional Love empowers cultural awareness and understanding through looking at the concept of past lives and soul imprints. Tracee’s published articles cover many subjects related to spirituality and relationships while her blog breaks down current events and daily energy dynamics that everyone experiences. Tracee’s been a guest on many prominent television and radio programs informing others about spirituality and sacred ritual practices. Tracee teaches workshops, webinars, and offers two online courses on the DailyOm.com. As well as speaking engagements touching on subjects like grief, death & dying, unconditional love, self- acceptance, and healing.

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